Gay Right

Before Dr. Elizabeth Moberly publishes her theory，most of the psychologist and psychiatrist believe that homosexual form is because they have close relationship with the oppose sex parent, and this cause they be approve by the same sex parent but not the oppose sex parent. For example, gay will have the same characteristic with their mother, finding protection from man. These psychologist and psychiatrist’s statistic shows that most of the gays’ mothers dote on them, their mothers also have independence and strong characteristic. On the other hand, their fathers are usually introversion, serious, relationship with child is not close, even drift apart.

However, Dr Elizabeth thinks that a homosexual person be approve by their oppose sex parent is the effect but not the cause. She thinks the cause of homosexual is because the relationship between a person and his or her same sex parent breaks, they may hope to involve in homosexual relationship to make up this regret.

You may ask what are the reasons that cause a son to have loose relationship with his father? There are many answers. The most seen cause, is when their father is too busy working for money, they don’t have time to spent with kids, as a long term result, the relationship between father and son may be loosen. Or maybe some reasons made some fathers don’t really like their own son, for example their son are too stubborn, or blame their son when their business failed. But most of the time is because the son his own problem. Some children are too sensitive, maybe are not because their fathers don’t love them, but are because they can’t feel the love from their father, so they will automatic stay away from their father. In some family, one son may be homosexual while the other is totally normal. One of the answer, it is cause by the characteristic of the children. For example, a son may be more mature that he understands his father is busy working and have no time for him, but not because his father doesn’t love him. While another son may be more sensitive that he can’t accept that his father stays apart from him. Another reason may because both of the sons accept different level of love from their father and this cause mental problem.

We believe that a boy from the born, if wanted to become a real man, except having the love from his mother as well as seeing the close relation between his parents in the family; he should have close relationship with his father. As a boy, father is the true role model. Only his father can let him be proud of his own gender, he needs the approval from his father, as well as his father love, care and approve. Without all of this, he will be lost, no direction and the feeling of safety.

Most of the gay is because some reasons cause they can’t get the approval from same sex parent: on the contrary, they get all the approval from the oppose sex parent, these causes he might have girlish behave.

Normally, children will be very good with the same sex friend at young age. When they are in secondary school, because of growth, they will have sex impulse; many children will have interest towards the opposite sex. On the other hand, many gay because are drift apart from the same sex friend, or their behavior are girlish, makes them continue to have interest towards the same sex. In this case, they will have no interest at all towards the opposite sex. And because of growth, they might use the same sex friend to be their sex fantasy person.

I believe that, gay seek for love and close relation from the same sex friend has no wrong at all and is needed. Gay because of some reason and drift apart from their father, had cause they don’t get love, encourage, understanding and approval from their father, to replace this regret, besides repairing the relationship with father, they still need to make up a healthy and close relation with same sex friends, learn to control and avoid the same sex relation become romantic.

For most of the reason, because of religion, people might think that homosexual is very evil or a crime, scared to have relation with them, some of the parents even don’t allowed their child to mix with homosexual friend. As I said just now, they don’t really want to become a gay or lesbian, try to understand and accept them. Gay is not a crime!!

--JOEY--